for us. “I’ve got news for you,” he had said cryptically that morning. “Let’s meet at the Regency for a drink at six o’clock.” But instead of telling me that we had been chosen to design a building that would add another chapter to the legend of Fallon and Sheen, he told me that after more than a year of quiet debate with himself, he had shed his atheism as if it were a moldy cocoon and had flown forth into the realm of faith once more. I laughed, waiting for the punch line, and he smiled, and in his smile there was something—perhaps pity for me—that instantly convinced me that he was serious.
I argued quietly, then not so quietly. I scorned his claim to have rediscovered God, and I tried to shame him for his surrender of intellectual dignity.
“I’ve decided a man can be both an intellectual and a practicing Christian, Jew, or Buddhist,” Hal said with annoying self-possession.
“Impossible!” I struck our table with one fist to emphasize my rejection of that muddle-headed contention. Our cocktail glasses rattled, and an unused ashtray nearly fell to the floor, which caused other patrons to look our way.
“Look at Malcolm Muggeridge,” Hal said. “Or C. S. Lewis. Isaac Singer. Christians and a Jew—and indisputably intellectuals.”
“Listen to you!” I said, appalled. “On how many occasions have other people raised those names—and other names—when you and I were arguing the intellectual supremacy of atheism, and you joined me in proving what fools the Muggeridges, Lewises, and Singers of this world really are.”
He shrugged. “I was wrong.”
“Just like that?”
“No, not just like that. Give me some credit, Pete. I’ve spent a year reading, thinking. I’ve actively resisted the urge to return to the faith, and yet I’ve been won over.”
“By whom? What propagandizing priest or-“
“No person won me over. It’s been entirely an interior debate, Pete. No one but me has known I’ve been wavering on this tightrope.”
“Then what started you wavering?”
“Well, for a couple of years now, my life has been empty … .”
“Empty? You’re young and healthy. You’re married to a smart and beautiful woman. You’re at the top of your profession, admired by one and all for the freshness and vigor of your architectural vision, and you’re wealthy! You call that an empty life?”
He nodded. “Empty. But I couldn’t figure out why. Just like you, I added up all that I’ve got, and it seemed like I should be the most fulfilled man on the face of the earth. But I felt hollow, and each new project we approached had less interest for me. Gradually I realized that all I’d built and that all I might build in the days to come was not going to satisfy me because the achievements were not lasting. Oh, sure, one of our buildings might stand for two hundred years, but a couple of centuries are but a grain of sand falling in the hourglass of time. Structures of stone and steel and glass are not enduring monuments. They’re not, as we once thought, testimonies to the singular genius of mankind. Rather the opposite: They’re reminders that even our mightiest structures are fragile, that our greatest achievements can be quickly erased by earthquakes, wars, tidal waves, or simply by the slow gnawing of a thousand years of sun and wind and rain. So what’s the point?”
“The point,” I reminded him angrily, “is that by erecting those structures, by creating better and more beautiful buildings, we are improving the lives of our fellow men and encouraging others to reach toward higher goals of their own—and then together all of us are making a better future for the whole human species.”
“Yes, but to what end?” he pressed. “If there’s no afterlife, if each individual’s existence ends entirely in the grave, then the collective fate of the species is precisely that of the individual: death, emptiness, blackness, nothingness. Nothing can come from nothing. You can’t claim a noble, higher purpose for the species as a whole when you allow no higher purpose for the individual spirit.” He raised one hand to halt my response. “I know, I know. You’ve arguments against that statement. I’ve supported you in them through countless debates on the subject. But I can’t support you any more, Pete. I think there is some purpose to life besides just living. And if I didn’t think so, then I would leave the business and spend the rest of my life having fun, enjoying the precious finite number of days left to me. However, now that I believe there is something called a soul and that it survives the body, I can go on working at Fallon and Sheen because it’s my destiny to do so, which means the achievements can be meaningful. I hope you’ll be able to accept this. I’m not going to proselytize. This is the first and last time you’ll hear me mention my religion, because I’ll respect your right not to believe. I’m sure we can go on as before.”
But we could not.
I felt that religion was a hateful degenerative sickness of the mind, and I was thereafter uncomfortable in Hal’s presence. I still pretended that we were close, that nothing had changed between us, but I felt that he was not the same man as he had been.
Besides, Hal’s new faith inevitably began to infect his fine architectural vision. Vaulted ceilings and arched windows began to appear in his designs, and everywhere his new buildings encouraged the eye and mind to look up and regard the heavens. This change of direction was welcomed by certain clients and even praised by critics in prestigious journals, but I could not abide it because I knew he was regressing from the man-centered architecture that had been our claim to originality. Fourteen months after his embrace of the Roman Catholic Church, I sold out my share of the company to him and set up my own organization, free of his influence.
“Hal,” I told him the last time that I saw him, “even when you claimed to be an atheist, you evidently never understood that the nothingness at the end of life isn’t to be feared or raged against. Either accept it regretfully as a fact of life … or welcome it.”
Personally, I welcomed it, because not having to concern myself about my fate in the afterlife was liberating. Being a nonbeliever, I could concentrate entirely on winning the rewards of this world, the one and only world.
* * *
The night of the day that I took Santa Claus away from Benny, the night that Ellen told me that she wanted to kick me in the ass, as we lay in our moonlit bedroom on opposite sides of the large four-poster bed, she also said, “Pete, you’ve told me all about your childhood, and of course I’ve met your folks, so I have a pretty good idea what it must have been like to be raised in that crackpot atmosphere. I can understand why you’d react against their religious fanaticism by embracing atheism. But sometimes … you get carried away. You aren’t happy merely to be an atheist; you’re so damn eager to impose your philosophy on everyone else, no matter the cost, that sometimes you behave very much like your own parents … except instead of selling God, you’re selling godlessness.”
I raised myself on the bed and looked at her blanket-shrouded form. I couldn’t see her face; she was turned away from me. “That’s just plain nasty, Ellen.”
“It’s true.”
“I’m nothing like my parents. Nothing like them. I don’t beat atheism into Benny the way they tried to beat God into me.”
“What you did to him today was as bad as beating him.”
“Ellen, all kids learn the truth about Santa Claus eventually, some of them even sooner than Benny did.”
She turned toward me, and suddenly I could see her face just well enough to discern the anger in it but, unfortunately, not well enough to glimpse the love that I knew was also there.
“Sure,” she said, “they all learn the truth about Santa Claus, but they don’t have the fantasy ripped away from them by their own fathers, damn it!”
“I didn’t rip it away. I reasoned him out of it.”
“He’s not a college boy on a debating team,” she said. “You can’t reason with a seven-year-old. They’re all emotion at that age, all heart. Pete, he came into the house today after you were done with him, and he went up to his room, and an hour later when I
went up there, he was still crying.”
“Okay, okay,” I said.
“Crying.”
“Okay, I feel like a shit.”
“Good. You should.”
“And I’ll admit that I could have handled it better, been more tactful about it.”
She turned away from me again and said nothing.
“But I didn’t do anything wrong,” I said. “I mean, it was a real mistake to think we could celebrate Christmas in a strictly secular way. Innocent fantasies can lead to some that aren’t so innocent.”
“Oh, shut up,” she said again. “Shut up and go to sleep before I forget I love you.”
* * *
The trucker who killed Ellen was trying to make more money to buy a boat. He was a fisherman whose passion was trolling; to afford the boat, he had to take on more work. He was using amphetamines to stay awake. The truck was a Peterbilt, the biggest model they make. Ellen was driving her blue BMW. They hit head-on, and though she apparently tried to take evasive action, she never had a chance.
Benny was devastated. I put all work aside and stayed home with him the entire month of July. He needed a lot of hugging, reassuring, and some gentle guidance toward acceptance of the tragedy. I was in bad shape too, for Ellen had been more than my wife and lover: She had been my toughest critic, my greatest champion, my best friend, and my only confidant. At night, alone in the bedroom we had shared, I put my face against the pillow upon which she had slept, breathed in the faintly lingering scent of her, and wept; I couldn’t bear to wash the pillowcase for weeks. But in front of Benny, I managed for the most part to maintain control of myself and to provide him with the example of strength that he so terribly needed.
I allowed no funeral. Ellen was cremated, and her ashes were dispersed at sea.
A month later, on the first Sunday in August, when we had begun to move grudgingly and sadly toward acceptance, forty or fifty friends and relatives came to the house, and we held a quiet memorial service for Ellen, a purely secular service with not the slightest thread of religious content. We gathered on the patio near the pool, and half a dozen friends stepped forward to tell amusing stories about Ellen and to explain what an impact she’d had on their lives.
I kept Benny at my side throughout that service, for I wanted him to see that his mother had been loved by others too, and that her existence had made a difference in more lives than his and mine. He was only eight years old, but he seemed to take from the service the very comfort that I had hoped it would give him. Hearing his mother praised, he was unable to hold back his tears, but now there was something more than grief in his face and eyes; now he was also proud of her, amused by some of the practical jokes that she had played on friends and that they now recounted, and intrigued to hear about aspects of her that had theretofore been unknown to him. In time these new emotions were certain to dilute his grief and help him adjust to his loss.
The day following the memorial service, I rose late. When I went looking for Benny, I found him beneath one of the cherry trees in the backyard. He sat with his knees drawn up against his chest and his arms around his legs, staring at the far side of the broad valley on one slope of which we lived, but he seemed to be looking at something still more distant.
I sat beside him. “How’re you doin’?”
“Okay,” he said.
For a while neither of us spoke. Overhead the leaves of the tree rustled softly. The dazzling white-pink blossoms of spring were long gone, of course, and the branches were bedecked with fruit not yet quite ripe. The day was hot, but the tree threw plentiful, cool shade.
At last he said, “Daddy?”
“Hmmmm?”
“If it’s all right with you …”
“What?”
“I know what you say ….”
“What I say about what?”
“About there being no Heaven or angels or anything like that.”
“It’s not just what I say, Benny. It’s true.”
“Well … just the same, if it’s all right with you, I’m going to picture Mommy in Heaven, wings and everything.”
He was still in a fragile emotional condition even a month after her death and would need many more months if not years to regain his full equilibrium, so I didn’t rush to respond with one of my usual arguments about the foolishness of religious faith. I was silent for a moment, then said, “Well, let me think about that for a couple of minutes, okay?”
We sat side by side, staring across the valley, and I knew that neither of us was seeing the landscape before us. I was seeing Ellen as she had been on the Fourth of July the previous summer: wearing white shorts and a yellow blouse, tossing a Frisbee with me and Benny, radiant, laughing, laughing. I don’t know what poor Benny was seeing, though I suspect his mind was brimming with gaudy images of Heaven complete with haloed angels and golden steps spiraling up to a golden throne.
“She can’t just end,” he said after a while. “She was too nice to just end. She’s got to be … somewhere.”
“But that’s just it, Benny. She is somewhere. Your mother goes on in you. You’ve got her genes, for one thing. You don’t know what genes are, but you’ve got them: her hair, her eyes …. And because she was a good person who taught you the right values, you’ll grow up to be a good person as well, and you’ll have kids of your own someday, and your mother will go on in them and in their children. Your mother still lives in our memories, too, and in the memories of her friends. Because she was kind to so many people, those people were shaped to some small degree by her kindness. They’ll now and then remember her, and because of her they might be kinder to people, and that kindness goes on and on.”
He listened solemnly, although I suspected that the concepts of immortality through bloodline and impersonal immortality through one’s moral relationships with other people were beyond his grasp. I tried to think of a way to restate it so a child could understand.
But he said, “Nope. Not good enough. It’s nice that lots of people are gonna remember her. But it’s not good enough. She has to be somewhere. Not just her memory. She has to go on. So if it’s all right with you, I’m gonna figure she’s in Heaven.”
“No, it’s not all right, Benny.” I put my arm around him. “The healthy thing to do, son, is to face up to unpleasant truths-“
He shook his head. “She’s all right, Daddy. She didn’t just end. She’s somewhere now. I know she is. And she’s happy.”
“Benny-“
He stood, peered up into the trees, and said, “We’ll have cherries to eat soon?”
“Benny, let’s not change the subject. We-“
“Can we drive into town for lunch at Mrs. Fosters restaurant—burgers and fries and Cokes and then a cherry sundae?”
“Benny-“
“Can we, can we?”
“All right. But-“
“I get to drive!” he shouted and ran off toward the garage, giggling at his joke.
* * *
During the next year, Benny’s stubborn refusal to let his mother go was at first frustrating, then annoying, and finally intensely aggravating. He talked to her nearly every night as he lay in bed, waiting for sleep to come, and he seemed confident that she could hear him. Often, after I tucked him in and kissed him good night and left the room, he slipped out from under the covers, knelt beside the bed, and prayed that his mother was happy and safe where she had gone.
Twice I accidentally heard him. On other occasions I stood quietly in the hall after leaving his room, and when he thought I had gone downstairs, he humbled himself before God, although he could know nothing more of God than what he had illicitly learned from television shows or other pop culture that I had been unable to monitor.
I was determined to wait him out, certain that his childish faith would expire naturally when he realized that God would never answer him. As the days passed without a miraculous sign assuring him that his mother’s soul had survived death, Benny would begin to understand that all
he had been taught about religion was true, and he eventually would return quietly to the realm of reason where I had made—and was patiently saving—a place for him. I did not want to tell him that I knew of his praying, did not want to force the issue, because I knew that in reaction to a too heavy-handed exercise of parental authority, he might cling even longer to his irrational dream of life everlasting.
But after four months, when his nightly conversations with his dead mother and with God did not cease, I could no longer tolerate even whispered prayers in my house, for though I seldom heard them, I knew they were being said, and knowing was somehow as maddening as hearing every word of them. I confronted him. I reasoned with him at great length on many occasions. I argued, pleaded. I tried the classic carrot-and-stick approach: I punished him for the expression of any religious sentiment; and I rewarded him for the slightest antireligious statement, even if he made it unthinkingly or if it was only my interpretation of what he’d said that made his statement antireligious. He received few rewards and much punishment.
I did not spank him or in any way physically abuse him. That much, at least, is to my credit. I did not attempt to beat God out of him the way my parents had tried to beat Him into me.
I took Benny to Dr. Gerton, a psychiatrist, when everything else had failed. “He’s having difficulty accepting his mother’s death,” I told Gerton. “He’s just not … coping. I’m worried about him.”
After three sessions with Benny over a period of two weeks, Dr. Gerton called to say he no longer needed to see Benny. “He’s going to be all right, Mr. Fallon. You’ve no need to worry about him.”
“But you’re wrong,” I insisted. “He needs analysis. He’s still not … coping.”
“Mr. Fallon, you’ve said that before, but I’ve never been able to get a clear explanation of what behavior strikes you as evidence of his inability to cope. What’s he doing that worries you so?”
“He’s praying,” I said. “He prays to God to keep his mother safe and happy. And he talks to his mother as if he’s sure she hears him, talks to her every night.”
“Oh, Mr. Fallon, if that’s all that’s been bothering you, I can assure you there’s no need to worry. Talking to his mother, praying for her, all that’s perfectly ordinary and-“
“Every night!” I repeated.
“Ten times a day would be all right. Really, there’s nothing unhealthy about it. Talking to God about his mother and talking to his mother in Heaven … it’s just a psychological mechanism by which he can slowly adjust to the fact that she’s no longer actually here on earth with him. It’s perfectly ordinary.”
I’m afraid I shouted: “It’s not perfectly ordinary in this house, Dr. Gerton. We’re atheists!”
He was silent, then sighed. “Mr. Fallon, you’ve got to remember that your son is more than your son—he’s a person in his own right. A little person but a person nonetheless. You can’t think of him as property or as an unformed mind to be molded-“
“I have the utmost respect for the individual, Dr. Gerton. Much more respect than do the hymn singers who value their fellow men less than they do their imaginary master in the sky.”
His silence lasted longer than before. Finally he said, “All right. Then surely you realize there’s no guarantee the son will be the same person in every respect as the father. He’ll have ideas and desires of his own. And ideas about religion might be one area in which the disagreement between the two of you will widen over the years rather than narrow. This might not be only a psychological mechanism that he’s using to adapt to his mother’s death. It might also turn out to be the start of lifelong faith. At least you have to be prepared for the possibility.”
“I won’t have it,” I said firmly.
His third silence was the longest of all. Then: “Mr. Fallon, I have no need to see Benny again. There’s nothing I can do for him because there’s nothing he really needs from me. But perhaps you should consider some counseling for yourself.”
I hung up on him.
* * *
For the next six months Benny infuriated and frustrated me by clinging to his fantasy of Heaven. Perhaps he no longer spoke to his mother every evening, and perhaps sometimes he even forgot to say his prayers, but his stubborn faith could not be shaken. When I spoke of atheism, when I made a scornful joke about God, whenever I tried to reason with him, he would only say, “No, Daddy, you’re wrong,” or, “No, Daddy, that’s not the way it is,” and he would either walk away from me or try to change the subject. Or he would do something even more infuriating: He would say, “No, Daddy, you’re wrong,” and then he would throw his small arms around me, hug me very tight, and tell me that he loved me, and at